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Aussie--guess what? daughter came to visit yesterday--her ex-husband told her she needed some rest--so she told me that she wanted to come help me in the garden & help me get my house in order. Her ex did not tell her that he had run the bus over her when she was inrehab. She was fired (via text from the owner's daughter). I feel I must get hunting thru R.I. (& federal laws to figure out what HIPAA violations were violated. I also told her that since she is divorced, her father & I were her next-of-kin, not his bossy self.

Goodness me, what a mess. Glad she has you for support BayGrannie. Hugs.

I should known...later that evening she called & told me her car was repossed & she needed $350. to get it back by 8/20 and (oh my) needed $758 for rent by 8/14. So my blessed friend, she shows up again ONLY when in trouble--what do I do now? I love my grandsons, but I am on Social Security--even though she says she knows I have plenty of money. My husband says it is up to me. It is my money. Today, is my father's passing anniversary. I was 19 & Iam trying to think in my mind (good place to think) what he would do. Please help me muddle thru this mess Double hugs.

Dear BayGrannie, been there done that. I loaned my daughter $2, 000 many years ago which she has never repaid. So - hard as it may be - the answer is "no" if she wants money. If yur daughter really is in dire distress and does need the money to survive, steer her in the direction of St Vincent de Paul or other organisations such as that because if you give her money you are just enabling her and she will always use you as her personal bank. And you will get no thanks from her - my daughter said that I owed it to her because I didn't pay for her driving lessons and such. Mind you she left home at 14, so didn't really give me the opportunity. I love my daughter and pray for her every day even though she has not had any contact for five years now. Hang in there BayGrannie and pray for wisdom to handle the situation. Hugs.

My husband told me this afternoon that he would be happy to handle this situation. If she (or her "boy" friend) have trouble, they must write us a proposal on how they intend to pay back our $$$.

Your husband has a good head on his shoulders. So glad that he's there to support you. Go by what Aussie has said if they don't agree to pay it back. And then don't feel guilty about it. Hugs, sweetie!

Thanks Aussie & Taffi, my body just gave out a big sigh of relief that things might just work out as long as we stick to our pay-back program. Do I think they will stick by it? No. Does the ex have parents? Yes. He could certainly take a bus. They do have buses here. I remember when I flew her homelast summer, he was most kind to give her bus $$. I think today that if she shows up looking for a car & money, I will tell her this in no uncertain terms--if the bus was good enuf for her, then certainly, he should be able to do it. We've all taken the bus on occasion. AND maybe if he is using his job at one call center bank & if he went looking into my private bank accounts, he will find out that yes, I DO have a lot of money, but only because I SAVED it. The younger folk do know about that.Period. And if he has the day off today, then I certainly would expect his butt over here today to help with some gardening or (horror of horrors) dig & mow. State is paying them to send their kids to daycare. Love to you both--thanks for helping me sort this mess out. Now, it is up to us to stick to our plan. Thank you SO much & hugs to both of my C4J buddies. Once again, I remember that Earth was created to be one big neighborhood. Thanks & loads of blessings.

That the earth is one big neighborhood doesn't mean we necessarily like our neighbors! Stick to your guns, BayGrannie. Much as you love your kids, they need to grow up and take responsibility for themselves and their actions (or lack thereof.) Hugs & prayers to you.

God is good and blesses us in many ways. I am so blessed to be part of this site and the lives of some on here. Take care BayGrannie and may it all work out for all of you. Hugs.

Wise words aknan and just what I would expect from you. Warm hugs.

You're a sweetheart, aussie!

BayGrannie, if your SIL checked out your accounts through the bank's call center, he's violating all kinds of privacy laws. Reporting this could even cost him his job.

OK-here's the final. We draw up a contract stating how much $$ I expect each week and get it notarized. If they fail to pay, then I REPOSESS the car & can sell it (or give it) to anyone I want. Sound good? This is IT. No more will I bother my C4J buddies with my troubles - thanks and love to Aussie & aknan, This way is win-win for both of us. Case closed.

No, no, no, BayGrannie! You're not bothering us at all - we're all here to assist one another in times of need! The notarized contract is a good idea - gives them an incentive to pay back your loan and gives you the right to the collateral if they don't. This is what I recommend to my clients when kids ask for money. You'd be amazed at how many can find another source for funds, too.

It is so good we can bounce ideas back and forth on here. Helps us to look at things from a different perspective and support in prayer etc. Well done BayGrannie and Aknan. Hugs.

BayGrannie, never feel that you're bothering us. This group is a community, a family, who support each other through debate (if you want to call it that) and prayer. That being the most important part. If something is troubling you, then share. And that applies to each of this group. Hugs to each of you.
A bit late to reply as I've been away this civic holiday weekend. Now I'm back and due to catch up on some jigsaws!

Lovely thoughts taffi, thank you so much. Hugs.

Love the ladybird :)

There is a page with info about John Moulton at:
http://jacksonholehistory.org/john-moulton-homestead/